Understanding What Could Hurt Your Custody Case
Hi, my name is Aaron Grubb. I’m a Tahlequah family law attorney at Wirth Law Office. In this video, I want to share a few things that could potentially hurt your custody or paternity case.
When a judge is deciding custody, they’re focused on one thing: the best interest of the child. With that in mind, here are some behaviors or attitudes that may negatively affect your case:
Key Behaviors to Avoid
1. A Rigid, Know-It-All Mindset
If you approach the case with a strict, uncompromising attitude—saying things like, “This is the way I was raised,” or “I know what’s best and no one else does”—that can work against you. Even if you are right, coming across as unwilling to compromise may concern the judge.
Judges look for co-parents who can work together. If you appear difficult or inflexible, the court may lean toward granting more time—or even primary custody—to the parent who seems more cooperative.
2. Lack of Involvement in the Child’s Life
Another major red flag is being uninformed or uninvolved. If you can’t name your child’s:
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- Primary care physician
- Therapist
- Teacher or coach
—then it shows a lack of engagement.
You should be able to explain who these individuals are and what role they play in your child’s life. Saying things like, “The mom always takes them to soccer, I just show up for the game and leave,” does not reflect well on your parenting role. Judges want to see that you’re actively involved in all aspects of your child’s upbringing.
Getting the Support You Need
If you have questions about how to strengthen your custody case—or avoid common pitfalls—please contact Tahlequah child custody attorney Aaron Grubb at Wirth Law Office. We’re here to help. Our team is ready to offer you insights tailored to your specific situation.
Schedule Your Low-Cost Initial Strategy Session
Don’t wait to take action on your custody case. For just a small fee, you can schedule an initial strategy session with us. Call (918) 458-2677 today to gain clarity and direction in your custody journey. We’re here to assist you!
